Monday, August 28, 2023

snag

 Alright so we hit a snag, 

We had to hire movers. And after that I got confirmation 3 guys i'll be working with volunteered to help me unload, so that should go relatively easy. 


I will be moving in on Wednesday, not Tuesday. 


I need surge protectors. the kind that also protects against overloading. because there are NOT enough outlets in the apartment....

and without furniture it looks even smaller than I remember :') I may have to rearrange some stuff. 


But. It will be okay. If I need to put the vanity in the sun room I can. If I need to put the book shelves in the living room I can. 

However..... the portable dishwasher is gone. Which was the reason I chose the bottom floor over the top floor... 

so things I now need to buy that was unplanned:


- AC units --> 1 really good ones or 2 so/so ones.  I'll wait. summer is almost over. I'll get 2 box fans.

- portable dishwasher --> new is close to $500... buy used facebook marketplace?

- extra powerful surge protectors

- 2 computer and screen power cables - extra long

- 2 extension chords

- a new TV since mine did not make it through the move. 

Sunday, August 27, 2023

Wisconsin night 1

 I am officially in wisconsin! 

I'll be staying in a hotel tonight and tomorrow until the apartment is ready on tuesday.


nervous. excited. 

Saturday, August 26, 2023

On the road

 Otis and I drove all the way to Ohio today, thats the half way mark. We will reach our final hotel tomorrow night.. stay there Sunday and Monday. Hopefully the apartment will be ready for me to move in on tuesday; and Jack & Kat, my new supervisors, said they would help me have a team to help me unload my truck! 


I'm so nervous but so excited to get everything unloaded... because its going to take at least a full day alone to put together all my furniture T_T once its put together I'll be able to place them in the rooms they need to go. 


First off will be my bed... but i strongly suspect that I will be sleeping on my couch the first night haha. 

....


It still dpesn't feel real. It feels like i'm on some weird vacation and I'll be right back at work next week. Seeing everyone. Ellis. Star. Zack. Lexxie. People I saw so regularly... 


Its going to be so weird to not walk 2 minutes and be able to knock on her door. 

I miss her already. 

Tuesday, August 22, 2023

Playlist for the move

Part 1

- castle on a hill - Ed Sheeran

- house that built me - meranda lambert

- warrior by demi

- dancing with the devil - demi

- sober - demi

- Angel - within temptaton 

- are you really okay? - Sleep Token

- because of you - kelly clarkson

- Kiss with a fist - florence and the machine

- Young god - halsey

- Good old days - Macklemore

- same love maclemore

- young - kenny chensey 

- fireflies by faith hill

- Hallucinogens - Matt Maeson

- Theif - Ansel Elgort

- Toxic - Kehlani

- At my worst - Blackbear

- Granite by Sleep Token

- Incapabale by Keyshia Cole

- Tears of Gold - Faouzia 

- Lose you to love me - Selena Gomez

- sound of silence - disturbed

- sunshine and summer time by faith hill

- drag queen - Chris Housman

- we are family ?

- Lean on me - florence and the machine

- Darlin by avril lavigne

- The night before Life goes on - Carrie Underwood

- Send me a Song Celtic women

Part 2

- Praying Kesha

- Salt by Ava Max

- Bite me Avril Lavigne

- Beauty from Ashes - Celine Dion

- Learn to let it go - Kesha

- Rainbow  - Kesha

- Tomorrow will be Kinder

- You Learn -  Alanis Morissette

- Hand in my pocket -  Alanis Morissette

- This is me - camp rock

- Thank you Next - Ariana Grande

- Shake it off - Taylor Swift

- What doesn't kill you makes you stronger

- Shake it off - Florence and the machine

- Torches - X Ambassador  

Part 3

- The circle - Blackmores night

- Pronoia - Carly Pearl

-  No tears left to cry - Ariana Grande

- Beautiful by Christina Aguilaera 

- Nothings holding me back - shawn mendez

- Good to be alive - Andy Grammer

- unstopable - no resolve

- Rise by fame on fire

- Confident by Demi rock cover

- Try - Pink

- The light - Disturbed

- Jericho - Iniko

Part 4 

* Pick songs from the manifestation playlist the manifestation playlist*

Monday, August 21, 2023

writing exorcise

 She grabbed a charcoal and piece of parchment as the two of them made their way to the campfire. She tried to hide her unease as she settled on the ground, he gaze settling on him as he stretched out across an upturned canoe, allowing her access to view him in his entirety; his silhouette illuminated by the flames. In the glow of the light she really was not shocked to know he was an avatar for the god of war and death. Clearing her throat she put the char to the page and began to sketch him. 

There were many things that brought the eye to attention when one looked at him, one was not sure which to focus on first. His face was somehow both sharp and soft, the features were definitive, but not chiseled. His cheekbones and jawline was narrow, while no one would dare to say he was not masculine, his masculine beauty was graceful; the same beauty one would find in a scythe rather than a battle ax. He had layers of ebony hair, while usually pulled up and out of his way, allowing his striking blue transfixing eyes to observe unobstructed, in this moment is hung down in a damp, freshly washed curtain. It looked soft, fluffy if one was bold enough to think the word in his presence. 

Following the movement of his lithe body, one's gaze would follow the curve of this throat to the broad shoulders, modestly covered in a light black long sleeved tunic that draped over his tones muscles from clavicle to wrist. The cloth draped over his torso softly, yet hugged the curvatures beneath it in flattering ways. While his body was sculpted, his strength was deceptive. Should he stand next to a regular soldier one would assume he was fairly weak, yet his lean muscles held a scary level of strength that it was not uncommon to wonder if he were inhuman. If he flexed his arms his biceps would surely  pull the thin cloth taut, however in a rare moment, he was relaxed. His hands were striking, despite living the life of a warrior they were not marred by scars nor were his nails unkempt. His long elegant fingers were adorned with rings, one calloused palm flat against his perch, propping himself up lazily, with the other laying on his lap. His long legs, which were always confined to leather, were in a matching set of trousers of the same materials as his tunic, with the same ability to highlight the profiles of his body. 

She forced her eyes not to longer over the form of his body longer than necessary as she completed her sketch of him. There was no mistaking it, he was a beautiful man, capable of amazing things. Horrifyingly amazing things. Yet it was not his proficiency in battle that made people fear him above all else, it was his divine aura. The sheer weight of his spiritual and mythical power could render people paralyzed, many falling victim to the compulsion of his will. She shivered, remembering the indescribable sensation of his aura settling over her in the courthouse, and yet... she had been able to move. She had defied him and in the moment of sheer will power she became a shield to those around her, his aura bouncing off of her like a wave crashing against stone. It was of little wonder that he had taken her as a hostage in the peace negotiations... when one is a living god it must be intriguing when a mere mortal is able to render him powerless. She didn't know whether to be honored, threatened, or exhilarated by his interest. She was serving her country, sparing a friend, and brought closer to this living divinity. 

As she began to lose herself in the art, her thoughts began to circle around him, divinity, the awe inspiring energy that came off of him when he accessed his powers, and the irritating arrogant that came with said power. He was so beautiful, he was blessed, and yet he was the most insufferable ass. He had promised that one day he would have her on her knees before him, but she smiled to herself. The only one who would bow in worship between the two of them would not be her. There was an intense pull between the two of them, that was too obvious to ignore, but her will was as strong as his, and she would be damned if she ever fell to the feet of another man ever again in her life. If he wanted her, it would be him that took the knee, looking up at her in desire and admiration. Anything less than worship and she would deny him. She huffed as her finger smeared the char on the page to fit the curve of his abdomen, thinking how he viewed her in a similar way. Only this time, she would have the satisfaction of being the first woman - or person, it seemed, - to ever deny him his desire. 

She was focusing on the fine details of this mouth, the curvature of his full lips, when a loud snap came from the fire startling her. As her eyes flew up from her project, his body was suddenly before her,. She gasped, as she had not even seen him move. His piercing eyes held hers, slowly trailed to her mouth, down her throat, past her bosom, and down to the drawing now sitting limply in her lap. 

"Was I a good model?" He asked, his tone full of amusement. 

"I suppose," she huffed, not wanting to feed his ego. "It will do more or less, I will work on the ballad should inspiration come. Although with you I doubt I will be so inspired." She pulled out her most unimpressed sneer, looking him up and down and scoffing. But he saw through her charade with ease. Taking her chin his hand, she felt her pulse jump. 

"You know Song bird, I do love your sharp tongue. If you're a good girl perhaps I'll taste your words directly." His voice was husky, low enough to risk no one overhearing. Electricity shot through her body, making her insides jump, but she forced her eyes to roll. 

"No thank you. I don't think I want to know what death tastes like." If he was Death, he brought out the opposite in her. Her entire body was alive at his close proximity. There was something about his aura, even when muted like this, that called to her. His connection to the gods, to divinity, to spirit... she wasn't sure if she wanted to absorb him, be engulfed by him, or simply cease to exist and fade into the unity she could feel at the outskirts of her own energetic aura where it met his. She had never fed on a divine being before, although the idea exhilarated her it also terrified her. His body was more or less mortal, as was hers, but she doubted a fae could stand against the power of a god. 

But a part of her wanted to know. A hunger began to form inside her, her center beginning to heat, and she tongue flicked over her lip imagining the taste of his energy flowing into her mouth if she gave into him and kissed him. She stiffened. No. She would do no such thing; should anything occur it would be him who gave into carnality. She had gone years without feeding, she could go on for more. While his energy was tempting, and her soul called out to connect to spirit, she would settle for prayer. One does not need to fuck a god to connect to the divine, although the image plagued her thoughts. 

As if sensing the roller coaster of her resolve, he chuckled and moved closer, breathing in her scent as he ran his nose along her jaw, making his way to whisper something into her ear. She fought the urge to shiver as his lips dipped down to her neck as he said something quietly in his native language. She pulled away from him, giving him a puzzled look, and relieved when he moved away himself. She was determined not to give in to him, but her resolve was beginning to pool between her legs the longer his body was so close to hers. 

"Good night Song bird," he said casually, a leisurely wave of his hand as he turned his back and walked back towards the center of the camp. She huffed again, shaking her head, and returned to the portrait in her lap. She had a rough outline of him, enough that she could embellish and create the details from memory. She had the strongest urge to draw in shadowy scenery around him, to draw his raw magical power dripping off a narrow aura in waves of ether. One day she would drink that ether in, connect with the divine spark within her own soul, and she would break free of the mortal cage she was bound by. 

Soon she would be free, but he would have to come to her, on his knees with his palms open in offering. She smiled to herself at the image and went back to work, her fingers smearing the black powder deeper into the pores of the page. 

Friday, August 18, 2023

Manipulated.

 This weekend was supposed to be a light hearted weekend of relaxation and celebration. The weekend after the most stressful two weeks at my job. The weekend before my big move. The weekend of my sister’s baby shower. 


And 30 minutes away from the airport, after driving an hour with no time to change plans - my aunt drops a fucking bomb on me. Cara is coming. 


For anyone who doesn’t remember Cara is my younger sister that I have gone no contact with (other than wishing her a happy birthday to prove I remember she exists and I don’t hate her). She is a venomous, arrogant, entitled cunt that I cut out of my life about two years ago because I had enough of her verbal abuse. 

She took any and every opportunity to trash talk me to anyone who would listen. INCLUDING MY FRIENDS - who naturally told me every time she did this. She not only spoke ill of me, but actively wished and celebrated the idea of my failure and misery. 

She all but said that regardless of YEARS of therapy, medication, emotional and mental growth and maturity, that I was a walking threat to myself and society that could go off at any moment at the slightest inconvenience. Over something I said as a hormonal teenager with untreated bipolar. 


In front of a guest. 

While eating food that I MADE for her.

While I was HELPING her by watching her asshole of cat even though he almost sent mine to the ER because her bad life decisions weren’t his fault. 

In MY home. 


And you know what I did? I waited until she left, sent a polite but firm text saying that she would not ever speak to me like that again. So she started BRAGGING to people that I picked a fight with her and she was going to cut me off “to teach me a lesson” as soon as she got her cat from me. 

And when she picked up her cat and started in on me, I actually stood up for myself. She called me a bitch and left with her cat. As soon as she was gone I saved her the trouble of blocking me, I blocked her and removed her from my life in all ways except for phone number in case of a life or death emergency. 

I could no longer tolerate such a blatant and hateful person in my life. Cutting her out was the best thing I had done for myself in a long while. 


And then. With no warning, although people were aware that she and I were no-contact, I get tricked into spending a weekend trapped with her. 


And nothing has changed. She is still nothing but condescending, taking any chance to speak to me like I’m beneath her and stupid, jumping at any chance to make me seem foolish infront of others, and continuously passive aggressive. I couldn’t make it through a single fucking day without wishing I didn’t ever have to see her again. 


And that was after I was stupid and actually worried about her while we were traveling. Offered to help her with her carry on bag. Tried to make sure she wasn’t totally alone or left behind. 

She’s just fucking mean. 


And I was manipulated into having to be around her again. I was robbed of my last weekend I could have spent with friends that are supportive and kind, and who I very well may not ever get to see again. 

If I had been told she was coming then I could have weighed the pros and cons; maybe I would have decided a weekend with her miserable ass was worth seeing my sister carrying my niece. Maybe I would have decided, as I very much wish I could have done, that - no I was not going to put myself back into a situation where I am never at ease or comfortable, constantly disrespected and belittled, And decided to attend the baby shower virtually. 

At the fucking least I would have been mentally prepared to put up with her. Instead I get to bite my tongue to keep the peace, save face so that no one else has to be uncomfortable, and just seethe. 

And wrestle with the fact that someone i trusted blatantly manipulated me.

Great fucking weekend. 

Wednesday, August 16, 2023

its almost here.

 Its almost here.


Tomorrow is my last day of work. 

Then I will fly out to missouri to see rachael. 

Come back sunday. 

I'll try to have all of my packing - including my shrines (i'm so sorry) done in about 2 days. 

  • Shrines
  • "office" books 
  • dry food goods 
  • any condiments that won't go bad
  • pots, pans, silverwear that I intend to keep
  • Coffee mugs and cups I intend to keep
  • All my bathroom stuff.


I need to get my bed carried over to Lexi's

Day of the loading of the uhual i'll see if anyone will help ellis get the washer and dryer. 


The last 2 days (wednesday and thursday) I will try to say good bye to a few more folks that I know won't be able to make it down to my going away/uhaul loading party. 


To be honest. I have so many emotions  not even making lists is helping. All I want to do is cry, if only to relieve the pressure all the emotions is creating inside but I can't seem to do it. 

My eyes water and burn but no tears will break the surface. 


I might explode. 

I have my last therapy session tomorrow. 

Maybe I'll write everyone goodbye letters tomorrow. 

Yeah. I'll bring my laptop to work with me and write letters for everyone and hand them out/email them to folks. 

 

Wednesday, August 9, 2023

fae look after their own

 So last night I was in a potentially very dangerous situation and my host of friends warned me, and quite honestly pretty much saved me. 


I can post in more detail later, but moral of the story: I will never doubt that I am looked after ever again. 

Monday, August 7, 2023

updating financials

What I have already done:

- gotten tires and car work up

- new kitchenery (silver wear, pots & pans since mine are on the way out)

-bought my bed, by bedframe, air purifyer, vanity, bathroom storage

The roomba can wait. 

What I have towards the move: 8,000


To be spent:

- $1800 U-Haul truck

- Movers for 2 hours: 400

- hotel for travel $500

- Food for travel $200

- 1st months rent - $1200 (September)

- 550 to USAA

- 150 to sams

- 600 initial grocery run (I will need to rebuy all my condiments.... plus stock up on safe foods)

- 500 gas

----------------------------

5800


So...

If I were to buy 

- another cat litter furniture

- Biromantic Ace Pride Flag

- New TV stand so that I can put my current one in the kitchen as additional counter space

- Movie storage cabinet

- New knife set because mine was cheap and they are all rusted

- Day bed and Mattress (and comforter)

- Mirror for room

- Temu order (5 fleece lined leggings, boots, a black bodysuit I can wear to work, and a kahki blazer)

- living room rug


Thats an additional 700


6,500. Which still leaves me with a little wiggle room when I get there if I want to buy more groceries. 


Once I move in and can measure things I will need to buy:

- Privacy Curtains because a shitton of windows... --> 80

- Winter clothes(tobagan, under armour, gloves, neck warmer, Parka, fleece lined jacket, long boots) --> 240

- Snow tires - can't find???????


Should leave me with about  1150 give or take left in savings. 



Packing

 Also.... I have packed the decoartions and nick nacks in my apartment. I have packed 90% of my clothes

I have packed all of my recreational books. I have packed all my movies. 

But whats more? Even if I had not packed any of it... It would still take me less than 4 days to actually pack everything. So, now I don't really have to stress about getting packed in time. 


All thats left really:

  • Bathroom
  • Dry food goods
  • The kitchen stuff I will keep (glasses, coffee mugs, air fryer, coffee station)
  • "office"
    • notebooks
    • writing books
    • computer
    • screen and keyboard
  • bed spread and sheets
  • finading a way to give lexxie my bed and frame... I'll sleep on my couch after that. 
  • Shrines.... to be packed day of. 

Hell week...

 Hell Week Round 1 is behind me... 20 hours of overtime and 3 days of piss poor sleep. But the majority of the vendor turns is done. 


Hell week round 2 should be less stressful. 

We have mattresses that can be done today. 

Appliances done tomorrow along with any furniture swap. 

Wednesday we have couches... and making the sparkle master list (and typing it out). 

Thursday we Do final wipes/sparkle. F

riday we finish final wipes/sparkle. If we finish early we can start move in condition reports.... 

Saturday: Final walks, move in condition reports, Named door tags, and making sure the move in bags are complete. 


The only super late days should be Thursday and MAYBE friday. 


That means this week I should be able to go see Meg 2 with Lexxie - and maybe talk to me with Lexxie and Hannah <3

Friday, August 4, 2023

Pet care delima

 Alright so.... 

PetCo. If I enroll my pets in it I can get:

- 20% off cat litter and special discounted pricing odd items

- $20 credit in the app to use if I go to a regular vet and scan in my receipt (mind you; it would be an hour drive for the vet...)

- reward points on every purchase (good for treats and toys?)

- $15 rewards to use every month --> can help pay for the cat litter...... help humu medicine?

- extended life of rewards points

- 20% off grooming

-$30 off pet boarding (twice a year)

but its either 23.99 per pet each month... or over $600 for the year for all 3... 


but that saves about 20$ on cat litter every month. so saves $240 for the year. 


I would also have a 10% discount on the deyhdrated food for Snow. Buy the 10lb fish box for her, and a smaller box of the chicken one to alternate with and that should honestly last a year.....


The membership itself would pretty much pay for the cat litter... but I would be losing money in the end based off the memership fees. Because thats $25 a month for the cat litter vs $50 in membership fees if I enroll humu and snow. But I might also be able to get humu seen and medicated more regularly?



If his meds are $50 a month already.... thats $600 for the year.

If I could get him cheaper allergy meds and that could reduce his sinus infections? Might be able to lower that cost?


Things to think about.