sexual spectrum

they say that sexual orientation really isn't "this" or "that". its a spectrum.

i've been thinking over it...

ive mentioned multiple times that i have a very low labido. i don't crave sex. i don't get turned on/horny unless someone does something to trigger it and even then its iffy.

I am attracted to women... = lesbian
i have the potential to fall in love with anyone = panromantic
low to non existent sex drive = asexual???

now i know i'm not asexual.

But i'd say that maybe i'm borderline.

i don't crave sex
i don't really like to hear about it, although learning about it is interesting (from a academic POV)
although i wouldn't say i dislike sex...well... its complicated.

it feels good. but its so intense.
i almost feel like its more work than its worth.

honestly.

which would i rather:

cuddling vs sex = cuddling
kissing vs sex = kissing
(hug vs kissing = hug
cuddling vs kissing = depends, but usually cuddle)
movie vs sex = movie
swinging vs sex = swinging <3
watching anime vs sex = anime
hot make out vs sex = just a make out sesh.
school vs sex = school

i don't dislike sex.... but see a pattern here?

sex isn't a bad thing... but its not something i would go out of my way to experience on a regular basis.

it just happens in a mature relationship. because its something my partner likes.

its this mentality that makes me think on the spectrum of sexuality i border between lesbian and asexual.

i have an asexual friend that i kind of want to talk to about it... but kind of like me, sex really isn't something she likes to talk about and i don't want to make her uncomfortable.

now while i'm on the topic.....