how?

ok i talked to one of th eolder lesbian ladies at ECU today about my problem with sex. she suggested that corie and i have scheduled sex.... that way she can get sex she wants and the tension/conflict goes away. It would be a set day every week that no matter what we would have sex, doesn't matter if i want it or not.

that way we both make sacrifices, i would have sex regardless and she could only ask for it on the set days.

here is my issue with that idea...how?
how could you have sex with someone when you don't want it?

i know the trick is getting the genitals ...whats the word...active? no...

basically gettung turned on. and if you can keep turned on then sex is acheivable... even when you're not in the mood.

but if you're not in the mood... then getting turned on - much less staying turned on - is difficult.

and sex without being turned on? i don't see how its possible...

so although her idea may work for her i don't see how it could possibly work,

now somehow Corie and i have reached a point where i don't feel pressured and i don't feel her frustration as strong as before... idk but right now seems OK..

i'm just worried how logn it will last.