Thursday, July 24, 2025

Class Feedback

 I was so dissatisfied with this semester I am actually giving feedback. 


For my contemporary paganism class: 

I was actually very frustrated and dissatisfied with this course. So much so that I wholly regret wasting a credit on it. I cannot say there is anything in this class that I actually found helpful and there were a few instances some of the professor's comments bordered on offensive (and a few comments that straight up were offensive). This class would be better taught as "European Paganism and Ethnic Identity" or "New Religious Movements of Europe" - as this course did not cover much of contemporary paganism that would actually be relevant to those of us who will be living and working in America. What would be helpful would be learning about the various pagan practices we would come into contact with, how to navigate interreligious dialogue between practicing pagans and other religions (both learning how to still be able to serve them despite differing beliefs and how to navigate conflict), and perhaps explore practical applications of paganism in contemporary society. For this last item, the module of Paganism and Politics attempted to do that, albeit in a more narrow context.  

I understand this was his first semester teaching here and it was not what he was expecting, however some of his information was outdated or revealed how little he actually knew about some of the movements he was teaching on. For an educator, regardless of experience with the software platform or knowledge of the atmosphere of the school, I expected better. 


Entered in chat gbt to make it nicer:

I found myself quite frustrated and ultimately dissatisfied with this course. Unfortunately, I regret using a credit on it, as I did not find the content particularly helpful or relevant. In several instances, some of the professor’s comments felt inappropriate — in a few cases, even offensive — which made it difficult to remain engaged.

The course title and description led me to expect a broader and more applicable overview of contemporary pagan practices, particularly those relevant to ministry or interreligious work in an American context. Instead, the course seemed to focus primarily on European paganism and cultural identity, which might be better suited under a title like "European Paganism and Ethnic Identity” or "New Religious Movements of Europe.”

What would have been more beneficial is a curriculum centered around pagan traditions practitioners are more likely to encounter in the U.S., alongside tools for interreligious dialogue — such as navigating theological differences, supporting pagan practitioners in inclusive ways, and understanding the modern expressions of paganism in a pastoral or communal context. The module on Paganism and Politics touched on this to a degree, though it was fairly limited in scope.

I recognize this was the professor’s first semester teaching here and that the experience may not have matched his expectations. However, some of the material felt outdated or suggested a lack of depth in understanding of the movements being presented. Regardless of the challenges that come with a new teaching environment, I had hoped for a higher standard of preparation and sensitivity in course delivery.


 

For Contemporary Art and Religion - 

I was a bit frustrated with this class. Its clear that the professor is very passionate and knowledgeable on this topic, but there was a very clear bias in the discussions in class. She did not always respond well when people contradicted her perspective or was dismissive when another spiritual context was presented to the topic. For example when referring to the "spirit of an object" it was within a specific context - if one tried to talk about a literal spirit it was completely ignored. Mysticism could be discussed academically but if one tried to approach a topics from a mystic perspective it felt unwelcome. While she never cut anyone off from speaking it was very clear where she welcomed discussion and where she didn't. As a student I felt as if I was not truly allowed to explore the topic of this class as much as I would have liked because of how limited the discussions were. Everything was approached from an almost disconnected/objective or sociological perspective as opposed to a spiritual one. There was also an almost reluctance to consider any religious context outside of Christianity for most of the discussions and topics presented. When other traditions were brought up there was perceived avoidance, even when it was relevant to what was being discussed and could have provided another avenue to explore the art. 

She was never rude and while her micro expressions and body language gave a lot away, she held a decent poker face when the discussion wasn't what she wanted before she was able to redirect it. But it did reveal her bias. It also felt as if she was more eager to participate in discussions than to really hear the perspective of the class other than to respond with her own opinions and thoughts. There was a very large portion of the class that almost never spoke in class. For these reasons I would encourage her use of small groups for discussions more often in future offerings of this class. This allows for all students to feel as though they are able to speak on the topic, allows for multiple perspectives to be explored, and by limiting the number of people engaged in discussion at one time allows for deeper discussion. She did use small groups a few times in class and I will say that for me personally, those were the only time I really felt like we got to dig deep into the art the way I had hoped we would for the whole class. The biggest complaint in those cases was how short the small group discussion time was. 


Asked Chat GPT to make it nicer:

I had some frustrations with this course, though I appreciate the professor’s clear passion and deep knowledge of the subject. That said, the classroom environment at times felt limited in perspective. There appeared to be a strong bias in how discussions were guided, and when students offered alternative viewpoints — especially from different spiritual or religious contexts — they were sometimes met with dismissiveness or redirection.

For example, discussions involving concepts like the "spirit of an object" were often confined to a specific interpretive lens. If someone attempted to engage with these ideas from a more literal or mystical perspective, those contributions were generally overlooked. Similarly, while mysticism could be analyzed from an academic standpoint, approaching it from a personal or experiential angle often felt unwelcome. Though the professor never directly shut down conversation, it was evident which types of perspectives were encouraged and which were not. This created an environment where I, and I believe others as well, didn’t feel fully able to explore the material in the way we had hoped.

Discussions frequently centered around Christian frameworks, and while that can certainly be appropriate, there seemed to be a reluctance to incorporate insights from other religious traditions — even when they were relevant and could have deepened the analysis of the artwork or themes we were exploring. Opportunities to broaden the discussion were often missed or redirected.

To be clear, the professor was never overtly rude and maintained a composed demeanor in class. However, her microexpressions and body language occasionally revealed discomfort or disapproval when certain perspectives were introduced, which made it more difficult to engage openly. At times, it felt as though the classroom dynamic prioritized the professor's interpretations over a fuller dialogue with student perspectives. This may have contributed to the noticeable silence of several classmates throughout the semester.

One suggestion for future iterations of this course would be to incorporate small group discussions more regularly. The few times we did engage in them, I found those to be the most enriching parts of the course. These sessions allowed for deeper exploration of the material and made it easier for diverse viewpoints to be heard. Extending the time allotted for these discussions could also allow for more meaningful engagement with the subject matter and foster a more inclusive learning environment.

Thursday, July 17, 2025

Contemporary Paganism - Final Paper --> NEW TOPIC HELL YEAH

 OKAY SO 

I just found out that the really weird final paper we have to write for contemporary paganism isn't exactly set in stone. So I emailed the prof to see if I can change mine to explore the NRM of Hellenismos or Dodekatheism (which became legally recognized in 2017 and focuses on a primary 12) (Revivalist movement of the Hellenic Faith). Its a contempoary pagan movement that we didnt really discuss in class and its currently making moves - opened up the first actual pagan temple in almost 2 thousand years this year. 


Sources for the temple

- https://greekcitytimes.com/2025/04/03/temple-greek-gods-arcadia/

- https://wildhunt.org/2025/03/first-hellenic-polytheist-temple-in-1700-years-is-open-and-encounters-aggressions.html

- https://www.greatamericantreasures.org/the-old-is-new-again-greek-revival-architecture-and-great-american-treasures/


Sources for the movement: Academic 

- https://balkansbg.eu/en/content/b-identichnosti/287-elinizmat-i-sazdavaneto-na-savremenna-gartziya.html

- https://www.jstor.org/stable/j.ctt9qg2z6?turn_away=true&searchText=Hellenic%20revival&searchUri=%2Faction%2FdoBasicSearch%3FQuery%3DHellenic%2Brevival%26so%3Drel&ab_segments=0%2Fbasic_search_gsv2%2Fcontrol&refreqid=fastly-default%3Aaaddc1a194c2cfe368237956ecb04be1

- https://www.hellenion.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/Coming-of-Age-Celebrations-for-followers-of-Hellenic-Reconstructionism.pdf

-http://elaion.org/resource-centre/the-centrality-of-ethics-in-dodekathiesm/

- maybe: https://www.jstor.org/stable/arion.20.1.0005?searchText=Hellenismos&searchUri=%2Faction%2FdoBasicSearch%3FQuery%3DHellenismos%26so%3Drel&ab_segments=0%2Fbasic_search_gsv2%2Fcontrol&refreqid=fastly-default%3A9e41db039b4bf9abe45d91e9f0fa8dfd

-  Chapter 5: https://www.jstor.org/stable/j.ctt1gxp923?turn_away=true&searchText=Hellenismos&searchUri=%2Faction%2FdoBasicSearch%3FQuery%3DHellenismos%26so%3Drel&ab_segments=0%2Fbasic_search_gsv2%2Fcontrol&refreqid=fastly-default%3A9e41db039b4bf9abe45d91e9f0fa8dfd

- https://www.jstor.org/stable/3830219?searchText=Hellenic%20revival&searchUri=%2Faction%2FdoBasicSearch%3FQuery%3DHellenic%2Brevival%26so%3Drel&ab_segments=0%2Fbasic_search_gsv2%2Fcontrol&refreqid=fastly-default%3Aaaddc1a194c2cfe368237956ecb04be1

- https://www.jstor.org/stable/20163617?searchText=Hellenic%20revival&searchUri=%2Faction%2FdoBasicSearch%3FQuery%3DHellenic%2Brevival%26so%3Drel&ab_segments=0%2Fbasic_search_gsv2%2Fcontrol&refreqid=fastly-default%3Aaaddc1a194c2cfe368237956ecb04be1


Sources for the movement: Non-Academic 

- https://www.ancient-origins.net/history-ancient-traditions/rekindling-hearth-hellenism-0011554

- https://theculturetrip.com/europe/greece/articles/meet-the-greeks-who-worship-the-ancient-gods

- https://hellenicfaith.com/2017/08/12/reconstructionism-qa/

- https://religionfacts.com/hellenic-reconstructionism

- https://www.vice.com/sv/article/oh-my-gods-greece/


Thursday, July 3, 2025

Starting planning for Fall Semester - This is gonna suck but be so awesome

 This Fall semester is about to be INSANE.... like my first semester with a crazy work load but its going to be so interesting. 


The pagan ritual class is going to be everything I ever dreamed of. Looking at this syllabus I could NOT be more excited!!!! 


Classes:

  • Understanding Ritual (pagan ritual class - Religious Texts Credit)
    • https://docs.google.com/document/d/1qv_nw7yLXqCIXKTZxQ3ijk8PW6Z7Ir-UfpFSLTv_OcM/edit?tab=t.0
    • Heavy Reading and heavy creative projects! 
  • The Art of Discernment (Spiritual direction pre-req)
    • https://docs.google.com/document/d/1B4Ot345GuTj7Gf_9TepMB5pt4aKCB6kWXHfdzcNjwlU/edit?tab=t.0
    • Heavy reading.. 
  • Directed Study: Contemporary Paganism  - Religious text credit?????? Ryan is basically going to make a class we pagans can enroll in that makes up for the pagan class we are in now... so much reading.. ike 200pg a week. idk if I can do all that but I can TRY... if he gets it approved in time. 

Thursday, June 26, 2025

Work Chaos

 I need to unload. I really need to unload. the uncertainty is finally starting to get to me and I'm probably only feeling anxious because I have barley eaten today but jesus fucking christ. 


We will use code names for privacy reasons. 

My job: (not including admins)

Owner/Big Boss

|

My Boss 

/               \

Condo                Residential   

Newbie, Wife, SC            Me, Thing 1, Thing 2


Okay now that we have this sorted... Lets get into it. 

Everything was running really smooth until Owner found out about his wife's affair last summer. He sort of went off the deep end and My Boss had to take over his job for the most part. He became more of a consultant than a boss. During that time, My boss was so overwhelmed that she worked herself into almost dying twice. During that time and by almost losing her Owner realized he was in love with her and My Boss finally admitted she was in love with him (after like 10 years of knowing each other, working together, and being best friends. )  Around the end of last year Owner + My Boss = Dating. 

ok. up to speed? Good. 

The relationship turns toxic pretty damn fast. My Boss starts spiraling because she can't handle it but is determined to make it work. Very Triggered from Childhood Trauma and lashes out. Owner can't handle a partner that actually talks about their emotions, being reactive at times, and things get worse. Then things start to get better as Owner realized he's about to lose My Boss. Then things shift focus to My Boss's kids - most of whom are special needs in one way or another - especially "Trouble Child". 

Now Owner and My Boss fight about Trouble Child all the time. My Boss is trying different things to help Trouble Child and finally starts to see improvement but Owner refuses to acknowledge this and sees it as temporary. Fighting continues but My Boss gets into therapy so that she too can heal from her childhood and starts devoting more time focusing on her kids. Owner wants to just have fun and be distracted from his on-going Divorce. Tensions rise. Owner repeatedly says he can't be with her (out of fear for his kids and because he can't handle a emotionally volatile child) if Trouble Child is going to live with them and wants Trouble Child to live with his dad. My Boss refuses to give up on her kid and breaks up with Owner. 

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Not we get to the part thats stressing me THE FUCK OUT. 

Owner begins to retaliate at work against My Boss and constantly keeper her in a spiral. Then SC decides she wants outrageous demands (not actually that outrageous, but outrageous for our company as it is) and says if she can't have them then she quits. She hands in notice and they let her go early. All of SC's responsibilities fall to My Boss. Owner continues retaliation and refuses to help My Boss who repeatedly says she can't handle everything she has on her plate. (She is currently doing her job, still doing his job for the most part, and now is doing SC's full time job). 

My Boss starts having break downs. I help out as best I can, getting direct info on all of the retaliation and being powerless to really help. My Boss finally hits her breaking part and starts looking for other work. I start looking for other work because My Boss is the glue that makes my job work. She is the Primary wheel of the machine. If she goes there is no way this company survives. My Boss has a really good interview at another job and I start applying elsewhere in mass after she tells me that same day Newbie (second person on Condo team!) TURNS IN THEIR 2 WEEK NOTICE. My Boss panics, Owner is an ass when he calls her and says to email him and they would discuss it later. I calm her down and offer to write the draft of the email  - which she uses after editing. 

Options were moving forward:

- Hiring 2 new condo people

- Selling the company due to employee dissatisfaction (honestly all of us, other than me, are upset about lack of  benefits and salaries not being up to par with competitors in the industry) 

It is up in the air how things will shake out. 

----- Then we have today. 

I have an interview today on the phone that goes well. I have another interview Monday and Tuesday over the phone. All still within property management. Then I get a sign and random urge to search church jobs (which ive done before and nothing seemed appropriate for me) and lo and behold I find two that I apply to. I write a really thoughtful cover letter for each and use Chat GBT for the first time to make them more professional. I am underqualified for both positions but I also would LOVE to get out of property management and into a career with faith. I am anxious over what job I am headed towards because I really have gotten spoiled with this job. The pro's drastically out weigh the cons to me. I would stay here as long as I could if I felt it was stable enough. So I am hella anxious over having to go back to the 8-5 business management/property management strict lifestyle. 

Everything seems set. My Boss is 100% leaving its a matter of when. I have to time my departure with hers so that I don't cause more issues for her. But it seems certain, She is leaving and I am leaving. There is no hope for the company - not with 2 brand new condo people who need training and My Boss leaving immediately after that. 

Then My Boss calls me today and says the person they interviewed (Mystery Man) to replace SC is actually SO COMPENTENT that she thinks he could actually replace SC and herself. Newbie's work load would probably be split between Wife and Mystery Man. She is utterly amazed by him. If he gets hired, then the company is no longer a sinking ship... and I have no reason to leave. She mentions she may stay on as just a consultant - barley there but providing insight on occasion in the same way that Owner currently does. 

Now I am so conflicted and confused. There is too much in the air. 

1) If Owner hires Mystery Man, the company stabilizes, and I do not hear back from either of the church jobs I applied to - then I stay. 

2) If Owner refuses to hire Mystery Man out of spite to keep My Boss at the end of her rope - I go when she does. Regardless of which job I go to. 

3) If Owner hires Mystery Man, the company stabilizes, but one of the church jobs offers me a job - I go..... or do I? 

On one hand.... this job is familiar. I know it inside and out by now. The pay is amazing for the hours that I work (9/10-4 most days). My work life balance is amazing. I can bring my dog to work (and the anxiety I feel when I don't is a lot higher than I care to admit....), I can pretty much wear whatever I want so long as its not offensive or I am not meeting a client, and I can work on school work while in the office if I have free time. 15 minute commute home. Super relaxed and lenient  - when you're not in the loop of Owner's BS.... 

On the other hand.... I could make the jump into working in faith. Potentially taking on more than I can handle responsibility wise when added to school. Working firm 8-5 schedule with limited time off. But I would be paid the same WITH benefits. No Dog. Modest Clothing. Will have to mask being pagan. Might have to mask being queer... unclear on what the environment will be like. 20-45 minute commute. All new coworkers. Totally unfamiliar and new industry. Very scary... but finally changing careers like I want to do. 

--

But everything is in the air and I won't get any clarity until next week at the earliest. I already know I am going to do well on the phone interviews so I will either get invited to another in person interview or will get a job offer. Then there is the added stress of do I take the offer or not.. what's the timeline with My Boss? I would hate to accept and offer, tell Owner, and then everything end up leveling out.... 

My Boss and Owner are having a meeting this weekend to finally talk about things regarding next steps of the business....If he can manager to keep personal stuff out of it. (Which he accuses her of not doing). 

1) Will Owner Hire Mystery Man or Will he end the company and give us all a severance package?

2) If Owner Hires Mystery Man do I stay? 

3) If I am offered a Church Job, do I take it? 

I just need to know if I am able to stay in the safe and familiar role or if I have to take another damn job - then in that case which damn job do I take!?

Wednesday, June 18, 2025

Living Theology: A reflection on Poetry

 For class I had to do a close read on a poem and how it "does" theology - then I had to present a second poem and compare how the two "do" theology similarly or differently. 

For the first poem I chose The Summer Day by Mary Oliver.  In the first few lines its clear to see the narrator of the poem is already super reflective and notices the smaller details in life. She is brought to a point of intersection just from admiring the smallest of creatures: a grasshopper. The poem is instantly theological as she ponders who made the world, such as the tiny grasshopper before her. However I think the meat and potatoes comes from the second half - when the grasshopper flies away and suddenly the narrator reflects on prayer. To me this made me think how most prayers go out of us and to the being in which we pray, flying away the way the grasshopper does from the narrators hand. But then they present HOW they pray:

"I do know how to pay attention, how to fall down/ into the grass, how to kneel down in the grass,/how to be idle and blessed, how to stroll through the fields, /which is what I have been doing all day./Tell me, what else should I have done?"

This makes me think to Van Engen's article where he said "Theology, the study of God and God’s relationship with all things, can be abstracted into principles, but ideally its purpose is to influence life. Theology exists to be lived." Its the last line, "theology exists to be lived" that really resonates with me and I think is why this poem really resonates with me. 

Living theology, prayer as what we do in life and how we live our lives, and connecting to God within us and all around us is the connection I bring to my next poem. I stumbled upon this poet on Instagram and he is a theological poet. I am so enraptured by his poetry that after reading a handful of them I pre-ordered his book with zero hesitation and I think all people should experience his poetry at least once. Some key things to note: he has been homeless for a time, is married with kids, and during all the ups and downs of his life he found God through love. He sees God through the connecting of souls (primarily through sex) and so he calls his poetry "sacred smut x spicy scripture". But it is truly a LIVING theology. 

I know this is a long poem but I beg of you, bear with me and read it all. It really sets the tone for all of his work and it I worth it. If you want to skip it.... the final stanza is where the connection between the two hits home: "maybe physiology has always been prayer".

poet: Christopher Sexton

IG: christhecocreator

Poem: god came when I did. and whispered, finally

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my god wears no name, 

only nerve endings and nectar, 


my god is a man. 

my god is a woman. 

my god is neither and both. 

my god is a mystical oracle 

whispering through dead things. 

my god is the earth's orgasm, 

when lightning and soil kiss. 

my god is what happens

when polarity dances

instead of debates. 

my god is in the collapse. 

in the climax. 

in the stillness after. 

this is not about religion. 

this is about relationship.

the relationship between

rain and roots. 

sky and womb. 

dopamine and devotion. 

testosterone and tenderness. 

this is about remembering 

that the soul is sexual, 

the erotic is spiritual, 

and that the second coming

is not a prophecy.

It's a practice. 


divine union isn't some 

esoteric metaphor. 

it's science. 

it's sacred geometry

and sacred sex

and sacred nervous systems

waking up from shame.  


this is not new age fluff. 

this is ecology. 

this is physiology. 

this is psychology

finally realizing 

what the mystics always knew:

to meet someone with all of you

requires that you've first

sat with all of you. 


I wear my mala beads

to anchor me in this.

108 beads. 

1 is the masculine. 

action, direction, the seed.

the proton charge of the cosmos,

born to pursue and penetrate truth.

0 is the feminine. 

current, intuition, the egg. 

the electron dance of creation, 

chaos, and curve. 

and 8 is the ouroboros.

the infinite spiral

where they fuck 

and become forever. 

together they make life.

together they are life. 


and every time I touch them, 

I'm reminded:

the point is not transcendence.

the point is trust. 


maybe resurrection 

isn't just about rising from the dead. 

maybe its about rising

into the living. 


maybe heaven 

is just the feeling in her hips

when she finally exhales into your hands

without wondering if she's safe. 


maybe salvation doesn't come 

from a cross or a creed. 

maybe it just comes 

when we stop using love as a leash. 


maybe the second coming 

is not coming back. 

maybe it's coming deeper. 

into the mess. 

into the moment. 

into the breath. 


maybe physiology

has always been prayer. 

Better to be alone than Lonely.

 Some thoughts that always arise whenever I start dating and trying to meet people - 

  • I find fault with every single person who takes an interest in me. If they show too much interest too soon, I am almost disgusted. 
  • I think I know what I want but I don't think it actually exists. If I meet someone and they don't immediately fit this idea, I make it almost impossible for them to even try. 
  • I'm scared I'll end up alone but its better than being committed to the wrong person. I don't know how to keep the faith that my person is actually out there and the more open I try to be the worse it gets. 
  • Now that I love myself, I don't know how to risk loving someone else. 
  • I'm worried that I am the problem. I don't want to be chased but I refuse to chase. I'm just...stationary. Like a statue. I feel like i'm cold and unattached, unfeeling, like stone. 
  • I am outwardly nice and internally cold. I'm social enough to go out and have good dates but I have no actual interest or any semblance of a connection to these poor guys who are sincere. 
    • I actually sort of pity anyone who has legitimate interest in me. 
  • I am fine when I focus on myself. I thrive when I am single... As soon as I think about adding someone else to my life, my peace falls apart... but I am so closed off when I focus on myself. What if I miss him? What If I'm so closed off that I don't let him in? What if I don't even let him approach me?

After talking with my therapist there is a frustration between my self preservation, guilt at not being able to to feel a spark (which I need to let go of, because just because someone is a good person or option doesn't mean they are right for you), and a deep desire to feel a deep connection. I have so much love to give but I am so careful about who i give that love to. 

Its better to be alone than with someone who makes me feel lonely. 

I need to give up dating. Me and dating go together like oil and water. I will have to meet my person organically in order for me to even give him a chance. 

I went on a date, immediately wrote off the guy it was with. Minimal small talk afterward as I tried to find an excuse to stop talking to him.... only to run into him at the no kings rally and have a really good time with him. (Let's call him Willy since he lives in the Willy st neighborhood). We slept together (look i'm lonely alright and he made me feel comfortable) and I expected it to be sort of done after that. But he surprised me and we ended up having some deep discussions afterward. 

Not it is following what I expected and turned into a more so physical only type dynamic and I'm certain its just a fun fling. but he surprised me with his depth. 

Maybe I really do need to slow down when I meet people and discover the things under the surface. 
However, I cannot allow a fling to last more than 3 months if even that long. 

He serves as a good reminder that 
1) I am allowed to just have fun and enjoy the moment
2) I deserve to be treated like a treasure
3) Somethings that were "wants", are actually "needs" - ambition, playfulness, and financial security. 

As soon as I realized he was not my person, he was yet another lesson/example from Lucifer, I relaxed. I do need to be careful that he doesn't get too attached to me, but other than that. It's fine. 

I have three people I am sort of casually "dating"
- "Willy" - has a LOT of characteristics I am looking for. No ambition, no financial security, no playfulness that I've seen so far.  Sagittarius says yes, Capricorn says no. 
- "Fly boy": has the playfulness but lacks the sort of commanding presence I crave in a partner. We are friends, but there is very clear interest on his part and we dabble in flirting. If he were to make a move I would be possibly open to friends with benefits, but that's the most I can see. 
- "Academic" - hard to read and get a vibe on. Slightly socially awkward and a massive introvert. Has the financial security and while is not spiritually inclined would absolutely listen to me yap about it. I really like the way he looks at me. Its either we sit and have a conversation or we do an activity, not one to do both. Encourages me to be silly but doesn't really have whimsy in himself. Capricorn says yes, Sagittarius says no. 

Willing to see where things go and not quite ready to cut the chord on any of them just yet. 

Thursday, June 5, 2025

Writing prompts: Mallory - The Duck

 The Dawn settled the duck into its nest. We could only see it through the 1's and 0's of the digital camera... or rather she could see it. I huffed out another puff of steam over my chilled fingers as I glanced wearily over  to the small brunette woman fully laying on her stomach in the grass. She was too cute to glare at, but it was everything I could do not to do so after she woke me up before the ass crack of dawn after hearing the call of a damn bird. My glance finally morphed into a hard stare of disbelief as she shushed me, her hand motioning for me to crouch even lower onto the ground. 

The sun was just beginning to peak over the horizon, the chill of the night lingered over everything in a blanket of fog that I wished would dissipate so I could at least see the reason for my torment. My nose and cheeks were red and I just knew I looked like some kind of Raggedy Anne doll in my holey pajamas and curly hair tangled over my head. I would have snapped something witty at her, but the moment I turned my eyes away from my ice blocks that were once hands, my voice caught in my throat. She was looking up at me, her eyes shining in an almost childlike glee. 

Suddenly a large camera was shoved into my face as she jumped up, damn near startling the duck as much as she had me. I turned the body of the camera to face me, looked at the screen, and froze. 

It was beautiful. 

The creeping dawn had somehow cast a pink and lavender hue over the mist that cascaded through the tall grasses consuming almost the entire frame. The grass in question stood proudly around the nest, where I noticed the ever so slight bulge through the soft down feathers where an egg laid, surrounded by safety and warmth. The duck looked bleak and boring with my eyes, but somehow through hers she was able to summon an array of warm khaki, deep caramel, and hues of russet on the wings of perhaps the plainest bird in existence. 

The female Mallard called out a warning as a radiant voice broke my trance from the image. 

"See! I told you she'd be beautiful!" Puffs of steam crossed the short distance between us as she gazed up at me. Her brown eyes were alight with excitement, her nose and ears just as pink as mine if not more so; her ponytail offering no shelter from the cold morning. My eyes trailed over her as I saw her in the grass, as beautiful as a damn duck apparently could be. The cotton candy fog surrounding her and a slow golden light rising from behind, turning her into some sort of swamp faerie glowing before my eyes. What was it like, to see the world in such a way? 

I bent down to ask her that very question, but before the words could escape me she bounced and captured my lips with hers. They were hard, practically frozen, but I couldn't care. I wrapped her up in my arms, suddenly aware that in my frustration of my own discomfort I'd ignored the fact that she must have been even colder than me, wearing nothing but silk pajama which were now soaked from the dew she'd nested in. Reluctantly I broke the kiss, concern winning out over temptation. 

"Come one little bird, lets get some coffee going. I'm freezing my nuts off." With a wink, I pulled her into me as we turned towards camp. I noted the goosebumps and regretted not bringing a blanket - which I would have if she hadn't torn out of the tent like a bat out of hell. 

In a matter of time a fire was lit, a pot of coffee perfumed the air, and I was satisfying warm. I almost laughed as she came out of the tent wearing one of my hoodies - the one that was large even for me - and happily waddled over to me. With a sheepish grin she slowly took the mug out of my hands and graced me with a smile. I was once again off kilter - how could such a simple creature be so radiant? Oblivious to my awe, she made a happy noise as she slipped my coffee again, and took her place on the opposite end of the fire. 

"Mallory?" I asked, my voice almost dreamlike. 

"Yes?" she asked, her narrow face tilting to the side. 

"Marry me." I breathed, hardly aware I had actually said the words out loud. She blinked in shock for a moment and I suddenly realized what I had just done. 

"Shi-" I cursed, but she stood suddenly and startled me by practically shouting. 

"Okay!" 

"Okay?"

"Okay!" she chirped again, more confidently. Nodding her head enthusiastically and breathing hard, as if she had just run a marathon. 

"Okay." I said, my voice barely contained my laughter and joy. She gave me but a moment before her tiny frame barreled into me, throwing me on my ass. Her shrieks of laughter were contagious as she climbed on top of me and began pelting my face with quick kisses. 

"Okay." we breathed, embracing as the sun finally settled above the horizon.